Cynthia Nixon recently gave a speech and then a follow-up interview about being gay as being a choice. She’s onto something that the gay mainstream doesn’t seem to get. She explains (Huffington Post):
“Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”
The logic of homophobia demands a closet, demands a psychological or biological etiology for queerness, and mainstream gay activism falls right into this logic (e.g., “born this way”). Instead, we need to fight for autonomy, and the ability to make choices about one’s life.
